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The day he was leaving for Edmonton he stopped by my place to say goodbye. We hung out for a couple of hours and then he left. When he was pulling out of my drive way I knew that it wouldn’t be long before we would see each other again. I actually made him a little gift. There were letters or notes that he would open each day until his birthday (oct 24th). He later told me that those letters were the highlight of his days.
Life felt a bit odd knowing that he wasn’t around. It was really nice to be rid of all the drama that we had, but at the same time it was too quiet. I began to feel very peaceful and Brad was living a free life. I think that it is something that we both needed at that time. It wasn’t long before he called me from Edmonton and asked if I could visit him. I agreed, still being a bit hesitant, but went anyway. We had a really good time there. he showed me around the U of A campus and introduced me to some of his roommates. Once I left things were still really unsettling with us. Were we going to give it another try? How would it work? So, I went to visit him again, and then he came down for thanksgiving weekend. And then I was going to fly out there for his birthday.
I came a few days earlier so that we could have more time to spend together then just the weekend, and the day that he picked me up from the airport he asked me if I wanted to be his girlfriend again. It was all very cute, he had roses layed out on the bed and music, really romantic. After that we went out for dinner and walked around. It was very nice and comfortable, and the past no longer mattered. I think at that point we both knew that it was a fresh start and that we could make it work this time.
The only problem was that we were living in two different provinces. I HATE long distance relationships. He asked me if I would be willing to move out to Edmonton, and I said I would. I applied to University of Alberta and moved there Dec 30 2004 for the winter semester. It was nice to be in the same city again. No more flying back and forth, no more spending lots of money on long distance calls, no more being apart for weeks at a time.
March 2005 we went to Florida for his sisterts wedding, which again was really fun. I will post some pictures from our trip. And before we knew it we were going to get married….the story finale is tomorrow…
The Sunday that we broke up Brad asked me if I wanted to join him for church. It was an awkward drive there and back, the rain didn’t help it either. That evening I made him dinner and we had our break up talk. I won’t get into the reasons why we broke up, and no it was not because he had a hidden attraction to Brent.
Seeing as how we didn’t date for a long time we remained friends. He took me out for my 19th birthday, which is where my sushi addiction began. We still went for walks and movies, so it was almost like we were dating without the dating title or the exclusivity of it.
Eventually we kind of began to resent one another. We were not working out as friends, as we wanted different things. I was in love with a guy that didn’t love me back. Being the stubborn person that I am I decided that I was going to get what I want. The only problem was that I had no patience what so ever, and that caused a lot of hardships that we had to go through in our relationship.
By January 2003 we no longer spoke to each other. We had a big fight and decided that it was best that we didn’t speak. I temporarily began giving up and decided to move on with my oh so pathetic life. I had a lot of guy friends so it was easy to take my mind off him, as long I was around people I didn’t have to think about Brad. It actually worked really well, we both became interested in other people, pseudo dating other people. Of couse Brad being the possessive overprotective guy that he is didn’t like the idea of me being with someone else. This went on for a while: we fought, kissed, fought, made up, fought some more. A vicious cycle that neither of us could break.
Then rolled around summer of 2004. That summer everything changed. We were actually able to be civil towards each other. There wasn’t much fighting, we were getting along? It was a nice change, something that both of us were anticipating for a while. I stopped being clingy, and he stopped being mean. The arrangement was working out well.
At the end of July 2004 everything was turned upside down and we again were not on speaking terms. This time I thought that I was never going to forgive him for what he did ( I won’t say what it was, because it’s not important). I told Brad that it was all over and if he wanted me it had to be all or nothing. I was sick of doing everything half way. That’s what our relationship was all about for the last 2 years, everything half way, lies, deception, and pain. I knew that it had to stop and so did he. If we were ever going to be “WE” again then it had to be fresh.
We had a long talk at one of the parks we used to go to and decided that if we were meant to be it would happen. He gave me one last kiss and we parted ways.
A few days later I received a text message that he was moving to Edmonton. It felt so impersonal, but that’s what I asked for and that’s what I got……
Some pictures from our second year…
the guys he lived with and a bad picture of us
Brent and Leah before they became uncool
It’s really amazing to look at Sophie and see how much she has changed in the last 6 months. I remember looking at her when we brought her home from the hospital, she was so tiny and could barely hold her head up. Now she is almost triple her birth weight (at her last appointment she was 14lbs 15oz) and has grown 6 inches. On top of that, she is able to roll around, giggle, hold things, chew, almost sit up, make little steps, and hold herself up. I can’t believe how much a little baby can learn in 6 months. It may not seem like a huge deal for most people, but imagine not being able to do anything and in 6 months be able to do all of that. I think it’s a huge development, and I can’t believe how big she is getting.
When I was pregnant my mom said that the first 6 months are all about being tired and working non- stop, but after that the baby gets more active and more fun. I now agree with her. She is very amuzing to watch, and so much fun to play with. Seeing how she responds to things, and tries to learn different things each day, makes my day all that much better.
I fed her some pears for lunch today, and she liked them so much that the was making the mmm yum-yum sounds. It was so precious, I’m so happy that she enjoys food. From what I have been told by my parents, I was a terrible eater, so I am very happy that she is a good eater. She even got to go to WhiteSpot with us today and sit in a high chair like a big girl. Might I mention that she was eyeing the liquor menu, and then slobbered all over it when I gave it to her to play with. I told her she had to wait a few years for that one.
On a side note: brad and I are almost all settled in( as much as we can be) and are now looking for a place where we can actually settle. We have taken a few trips out to Langley and saw some really nice land developments. We’re hoping that he will find a good job soon and that we can get our own place, I just have to be patient for now.
Sophie is sleeping like an angel so I guess I will go and relax as well.
Sophia grabbing the paper at Tim Hortons
Brad and I are officially out of Edmonton. I was really looking forward to moving back to BC, but once it came down to actually leaving I was surprised to find myself feeling sad.
I flew out on the 20th to drop Sophia off with my mom, and came back to Edmonton on the 23rd to help Brad with cleaning. While I was in Chilliwack my MIL and FIL were there packing all our stuff onto a big trailer. Brad said that his parents are super packers, so I figured that they didn’t need me. They were pretty pressed for time so couldn’t get everything, but they managed to get almost everything in their truck and trailer. When I came back and walked into the house I just about had a heart attack, it was SOOOO dirty in all those typical places that we don’t clean unless the house is empty. I was incredibly overwhelmed with how much cleaning I had to do. I was determined to have everything done by the end of the night. It took a lot of energy, but we finished it. That night Brad and I went out for our last dinner at Moxies and then went to our hotel. We had a lovely 5 am wake up call, and were out of Edmonton by 8 am.
When we walked out of our house it was very sad. This was a place where we got married & had our baby. I guess we both had very strong attachments to it. We were sad, but happy to start somewhere new.
These are some pictures of our last days there…
Our trip to BC
Yesterday Sophia and flew from Edmonton to Abbotsford. I call my title a proud mommy moment because she was such an angel during the flight. Last time All 3 of us flew to BC, in Feb, she threw a bit of a fit, so this time I was afraid that the same thing was going to happen again. But as soon as we got into the plane she just nuzzled herself into my armpit and fell asleep. I was in a bit of a shock, but accepted it. She slept for the first hour, and then for the last 1/2 hour she just stared and smiled at people. I was proud of my little girl, she was sooo good.
Anyway, I am trying to get her settle in, but I think that she is having a bit of trouble adjusting. She never had issues with coming here, but for the last couple days I have been having trouble getting her to sleep. Yesterday she didn’t go down until 8 pm, and today it was 9pm. Her usual bed time is 6pm, so I hope that she doesn’t get overtired from missing all that sleep. Once Brad and I are back here on the 24th, I will try to put her on more of a schedule. I wouldn’t mind if she went to bed later, but every time that that has happened she gets VERY overtired and cranky, and those kind of babies are NO fun to deal with. She still sleeps well for me, on average I get 13-15 hours a night, so I can’t complain there.
I’m watching her on our baby video monitor right now, and she is sooooo cute. Watching a baby sleep is so precious.
Oh I remember what I was going to say. I ran into one of my very good friends at the airport. It was such a fluke that it happened, but it was very exciting. I hadn’t see that girl in a very long time. We chatted a bit and then she whispered into my ear that she just found out that she is pregnant. I am very excited for her. They hadn’t told their families at that point, so I felt privileged to be the first one to know. She is one of my most favorite people, and I wish I could see her more, but that’s what happens when you live in different provinces.
So anway, CONGRADULATIONS Val, I love you and miss you lots. Oh and her due date is Dec 3, 2007
I don’tknow what to do with myself these last couple of days. I feel like I should clean up our house to make it look more livable, but I don’t think that it’s possible with all these boxes around. I hate moving. I guess not many people enjoy it, it’s so inconvenient. Right now I can’t find anything, and don’t know what I may need, so packing is a hassle. I’ve already had to open up one box because my husband decided that he wanted steeped tea instead of using a regular tea bag. We have not used that hot press in who knows how long, and as soon as I packed it he went looking all over the kitchen for it. I thought it was kind of funny, but not at the same time. In two weeks we will be out of here, I can’t believe it. Most of you know how much I’ve been wanting to get out of Alberta, but now that it’s time to go I feel a little sad. Such a typical woman I am. I don’t want to get out of here because I hate it here, but because it doesn’t seem like home to me. But in a way it IS home. I got married here, had a baby here, all the best things that have happened to me happened to me in Edmonton.
There are things that I am going to miss. Things like: it doesn’t rain for 1/2 a year straight, places that are sentimental to us, my doctor. I had the best prenatal care here, and I am really going to miss that the next time I am pregnant.
But I am also really looking forward to going to the lake. Sophie is going to love going swimming this summer. And I am looking forward to Brad and I going out together a little bit. It will be nice to have some family around to babysit so that we can have alone time. We haven’t had that in 5 months.
OOOOHHHH, my cookies are done. Yes I baked today, mmm I can’t wait to have some. I’ve been craving chocolate like a mad woman recently , so I hope this will make the craving go away. Ok cookie time 🙂
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