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Well I had an unimpressed 5:30am wake up today so I guess I’ll blog earlier. Seriously 5:30??? UGH!!!!

So in October 2005 we celebrated our 1 year anniversary at the Keg. Mmmm, I love the Keg, and after that went out looking at cars. We didn’t have the intention of buying a car, just wanted to browse around and see what’s out there. Long story short we ended up buying a vehicle, 2005 Mitsubishi Lancer. The first words that came out of my mouth were “did we just get married?” I guess that’s how it all happened.

At the very beginning of November Brad said that he wanted to get married and of course I agreed. We talked about different possibilities of when and where we would want to have a wedding. We knew that we didn’t want a long engagement, and half jokingly talked about eloping. The idea intrigued me. No planning, no worrying, so stressing, no me freaking out…I liked the idea.

On Friday November 4th Brad proposed. Now came the time to set a date. We thought that Sunday sounded good, so Sunday it was. I called up my parents and asked what they were doing that weekend, and they thought it was a weird question and told me that they had no plans. I told them to fly out because we were getting married. I think they were a bit shocked Brad also called his parents, but unfortunately they were in two different places and couldn’t make it back for the wedding.

On Sunday morning we picked up my parents and that evening Brad and I were married. There was a total of 7 people present including Brad and I. It was very sweet and intimate, and I loved that I didn’t have time to freak out.

Once everyone learned that we were married question started popping up. I guess some people assumed that there was a reason that we got married so quickly. I actually got some emails asking if it was a shotgun wedding. If anyone can do math they know that unless I was pregnant for a whole year it was not a shotgun wedding. Sophie was born 4 days after our 1 year wedding anniversary.

Anyway we didn’t go on a honeymoon right away seeing as how Brad was in a middle of a semester, bu we did go in January. When we came to BC in December we had a small reception with family and friends, and then headed to California for our honeymoon. I love Disneyland, it was a blast.

So this is it, this is our story. Hope you enjoyed it. Picture time….

Our Actual Wedding Nov 6 2005

Our Reception Dec 2005

Honeymoon Jan 2006

That summer Brad sent me a few e-mails for some get togethers, I ignored every one of them. Later when he asked me why I ignored them I told him that it was because I didn’t want any distractions. I was trying very hard to work at the relationship that I had, and I didn’t want him to think about.

Once September rolled around I decided that I would live on campus again (the wedding was planned for the end of April). The funny thing was that the first person that I saw there was agian, Brad. No hand shake this time, I guess he felt that a hug would be more appropriate. We had a little chat, he introduced me to his sister whom was a new student that year, and we both went our ways. This time I was a campus resident and he was a commuter. I honestly didn’t think that we would really see each other all that much.

A few weeks went by and the more I hung out with different people there, the more I wanted to break up with my fiance. It was one particular night that made me realize 100% that I was not going to get married that year. My roommate and I decided to drive out to White Rock and spend the night on the beach. A couple of other people joined us and we went on out way. It was a beautiful night, nothing really happened there, we just hung out and talked. It was a lot of fun, and that made me not want to settle down. I was a month short of my 19th birthday, and I wanted to live my life, not be someones wife. The next day I decided that I was going to break it off, but it was the weekend so I thought I’d wait until Monday. That weekend I threw a big dinner party, I didn’t invite Brad, we weren’t really friends then so I just invited people that I hung out with. After the party I made some lame excuse to why I didn’t want to hang out with my fiance and made him go home. The following Monday he was beginning to realize that something was wrong and instead of asking me about it he just kept buying me presents. I was feeling really guilty for wanting to break it off, so I waited. By the end of the second week I had had enough. I KNEW it had to end. In our counselling class he kept writing me notes asking why I was acting so weird. I kept trying to divert the conversation but he would not let it go. Finally I told him that it was over…. Ironic isn’t it? Counselling class and an engagement break up.

I don’t think I had ever felt to relieved in my life as I did when I gave him the ring back and walked away. It wasn’t a sad moment, it was a good moment, I was free.

About 11 days after that I was sitting in out book store are called the Oasis reading a book, Brad walked by smirking at me. I kept on reading and then he walked by again, I thought it was kind of funny. The he started talking to me, but he wouldn’t sit down, he just stood there. Finally I told him to sit down and that’s where it all began.

We talked for a while and then decided to grab something to eat. That night we drove out to Langley to a park called Coyote Creek and there we decided to date. I remember him playing with my hair and he asked me a really silly question: “You’re not going to hit me if I do this in public are you?” I thought it was cute, and of course I said no.

The next day he came over to see if I wanted to go on a date to Westminster Abby with him. We went on our little date and had a lot of fun, that is also where we discovered that we both a strong dislike for horses.

Our relationship didn’t last a long time though, by the end of our second week we were broken up….

He was a nice boy, a sweet boy- but that was it, he was just a boy. I didn’t want a boy, I wanted a man. Yah sure Brad was only 19 years old, hardly to be considered a man, but he was more of a man then what I had. Seems silly for a 17 year old girl to be asking for a man doesn’t it?

Me being the romantic that I am I decided that it was better for me to stick to what I knew rather then moving onto something new. Two weeks before my 18th birthday I got engaged. Why? To this day I still don’t know what possessed me to want to get married so young. I was engaged to a guy that I wasn’t even sure about, even though if anybody would have asked I would have said that I was SURE.

The first semester was soon over and I had decided that I would move into the dorms for the second part of the year. I felt that if I was going to get married I needed to experince the dorm life before the married life. It was specially exciting as I was moving in with one of my best friends. We sure had a blast. I didn’t see Brad much during that time. Odd, seeing as how we were both living on campus. I honestly didn’t even really think of him anymore. My mind was occupied with other things, and Brad just didn’t matter all that much anymore. He was also interested in another girl (whom by the way blew him off). I say that because he rarely gets turned down by girls, I think she may have been the first one to do that.

The only other time that I remember talking to Brad is in the bookstore area. It was nearing to the end of the semester and I decided to go down there to see if there was anyone that I could hang out with. It was pretty late, but then I saw a group of people and decided to stick around. We played some card games and talked, I had a pretty good time. Around 3:00am-which was way past my bed time, I was just a bit overtired and and ended up saying something kind of dumb. I stretched so that just a bit of my stomach showed and said that I wanted to seduce someone. Seeing as how Brad was the only guy there he knew it was directed at him. I didn’t really mean it, I was just having fun. He later told me that if we had been alone he would have gone for it and kissed me, I don’t know if I would have refused…

At the end of the year Brad threw a big Gala at his grandparents house and that was the last time that I saw him. Next time we would meet would be in September for our second year…..

Here are some pictures from our first year……. The second one is for Leah